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Choosing Your Response

February 18, 2013 | By Mindy Adams |

Dear sister, there are two relationships in which you WILL respond to, day in and day out, as you try to make sense of the pain you are experiencing.  Your response to God and obviously, your response to your husband.  The good news is if we recognize the first and are intentional about our perceptions, then our responses to both relationships will be what will help navigate our wounded hearts toward the healing that God has for us.

The truth is,  your response towards God and your husband is a reflection of your belief in God's love for you and His promises for your life.  Ouch! Did you get that? Tough stuff!  I am still trying to wrap my mind around it.  What I am seeing in my own life is a woman who's responses have not lined up with who she claims to be...ugh! Sounds like a heart probelm to me! Not pretty!! This revelation has really challenged me in EVERY area of my life.

It seems like on the onslaught of pain, the enemy tries to give us a dose of amnesia when it comes to WHO we KNOW our God is and WHO we are in Him. We become so consumed with our pain and every detail of  our husband's choices that nothing else seems to matter.  Not only are our hearts broken but our mind becomes the enemy's battleground to cause further damage.  He takes advantage of every opportunity to destroy TRUTH with LIES.

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2012: Another Amazing Year!

February 01, 2013 | By Bryson Moore |

What if I told you…

We gave away and distributed more than 1000 resources to individuals who were seeking freedom.  We have not even scratched the surface of this struggle.  

Stories came in about how men were finding freedom!

We counseled and assisted over 70 churches in helping individuals with their addiction to porn.

We worked directly with high school students on their recovery from pornography.  More importantly, we saw them come to grips with their struggle and start on a path of freedom.

We were invited to share our wisdom on a global platform for parenting called the FLOW Summit.  The two sessions are about having conversations on pornography and sex.  

Our Plans for 2013

All of our online videos will now be FREE.

We will post every video from ALL of our resources online for free. You will see nearly 40 new videos added to the Freedom Begins Here Site 

We are working on some brand new video content.

We want to impact more lives, so we will post sections of our Devotional Journal online for FREE!

We will give away more free resources in 2013 with the goal of impacting 5,000 lives.    

So What Is Your Part?

Please tell anyone who is working with this issue that they can get free resources on our website. Communicate that freedom is possible!  

Pray that we gain supporters so this message can continue!

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When it's Hard to Love

January 04, 2013 | By Mindy Adams |

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If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a
resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.  If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom
all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains,
but have not love, I am nothing.  If I give all I possess to the poor and
surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.  
Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  
Love never fails.  
But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled;
where there is knowledge, it will pass away.  For we know in part and we prophesy in part,
but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears.  When I was a child, I talked like a child,
I thought like a child, I seasoned like a child.  When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.
  Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face.  Now I know in part;
 then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.  
But the greatest of these is love.      
1 Corinthians 13

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GOING TO THE SEXUAL PURITY GYM

December 20, 2012 | By Brent Barrowcliff |

 

Below is a post from Jeff Fisher a friend who leads another organization called Porn to Purity www.porntopurity.com.   I really like his message and hope to share more of his thoughts in the future.  

Recently, I’ve been going back to the gym.  It’s a good habit, but it’s rough when I haven’t done it a while.  My muscles have atrophied and haven’t been challenged in a while.  So the last couple of days I have been sore, tired, achy. 

I could help but think about my sexual purity journey and the recovery process.  I have sexual purity muscles that get exercised when I dive into recovery.  It is a necessary shock to my system.  I want to highlight some of these areas that get a workout when we dive into sexual purity.

 

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Why MY Husband?

December 08, 2012 | By Mindy Adams |

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Why God?  Haven't I done what I was supposed to do?
Why this?  Haven't I faithfully attended church and served in ministry?
Why now?  Haven't I fasted, prayed, and read your Word?
Why me?  Haven't I pleased you Lord by living like a christian woman should?
Why MY marriage? Haven't  I been a Godly wife?
Why MY husband?  Haven't I prayed SO many prayers for him and over him?
Why God? Why didn't you stop him?

Sound familiar?  Chances are, you are reading this blog because you have found out about your husband's addiction to porn.  Chances are, at some point you have shouted these questions to God.  I have too.  It's okay, my friend, because God can handle it.  BUT, maybe we need to look a little deeper and examine the root of these questions and our belief system.

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Filming for the Global Parenting & New Media Summit

November 13, 2012 | By Brent Barrowcliff |

Today we filmed two talks for the Global Parenting and New Media Summit. One is about Talking to Your Kids About Pornography and the other one is on Talking to Your Kids About Sex. 

We're excited about the Global Parenting & New Media Summit!

This awesome event brings all 12 experts in the same room to provide solutions for our digital age, and Brent is one of them!

Learn all about Cyber Bullying, Sexting, Internet Pornography and all the stuff parents today need to know about. 

Also essential for pastors, counsellors, youth workers and anyone who works with kids, teens and families.  

Check it out here: www.FLOWsummits.com

To enjoy a $50 discount off this online event, register at www.FLOWsummits.com/registration and use the discount code ‘freedombeginshere’. 

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Secrets that Destroy

November 10, 2012 | By Mindy Adams |

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You now know his secret.  Your husband is addicted to porn.

More than likely, you caught your husband looking at porn or you found it by accident on the computer.   You were hoping it was just a slip up, a wrong click of the mouse, a one time event.  But as time has gone by and more truth has been revealed, you realize it wasn't a one time event but an ongoing obsession.  The choice that you will eventually have to make is whether you should tell somebody or not.

Your husband, most likely, will not want anybody to know.  He may be telling YOU to keep it a secret.  After all, it is his secret not yours.  It's his to keep.  The truth is, you feel so shameful about this new discovery that you are okay with not telling anyone.  What would others think?  You begin believing the lie that it is best for nobody to know.  It could destroy the "perfect" christian family image that you portray to those around you. So you hide your pain.  You put your mask on every time you leave your home.  You smile, determined to not let anyone see your wounded heart.  You pull back from others.  You seclude yourself, so fearful that those who know you best  may catch you at  a week moment and see your brokenness. You make excuses for not going out with your girlfriends.  You cry yourself to sleep at night. Nobody knows what it is like to be you. And part of you is just fine with that. The other part of you wants so badly to be heard, to be understood, to be free from the secret that has left your heart so painfully shattered.

What do you do?

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We ask in faith!

November 08, 2012 | By Brent Barrowcliff |

Last Thursday night, the Transparent Ministries board was arriving for our monthly meeting. As the last board member walked in, he said, “Brent there is a guy outside saying he is supposed to be at this meeting.†We looked at each other perplexed. We were all there. Who was this guy? Brent went out to talk to him as the rest of us started the meeting.

But this meeting quickly took a turn for the worst.

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What Labels Are You Wearing?

October 29, 2012 | By Mindy Adams |

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When it comes to wives of husbands who are addicted to porn we often hear words like co-addict, enabler   and co-dependent.  Then we add a few labels of our own to the mix and before we know it, our true identity is hidden and soon lost amid the pain and brokenness of our circumstances.  No wonder our journey to healing and wholeness is filled with roadblocks and obstacles.

I find it disheartening that because you and I have been a wife of a  husband addicted to porn, we are given labels that bring MORE shame into our already broken world.  We can mistakenly perceive some of these labels as indicators that we are somehow partially at fault for our husband's addiction.

Because we love a man who is or has been addicted to porn, we are quickly labeled as a co-addict.   Meaning, we have an addiction, as well.  Not to porn, of course, but our addiction is to our addicted husband. This is our disease.  It does not matter that we had no clue of our husband's addiction when we began our relationship with him, we are automatically labeled and need to seek recovery. The good news is, there is no cure and the best to hope for is remission in which we must engage in for the rest of our lives. Really???

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John's Story (Video)

October 18, 2012 | By Brent Barrowcliff |

John shared his story with us recently. His journey is one of temptation, pain, loss, and redemption. 

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