Dear sister, there are two relationships in
which you WILL respond to, day in and day out, as
you try to make sense of the pain you are
experiencing. Â Your response to God and
obviously, your response to your husband.
 The good news is if we recognize the
first and are intentional about our perceptions,
then our responses to both relationships will be
what will help navigate our wounded hearts toward
the healing that God has for us.
The truth is, Â your response towards
God and your husband is a reflection of your belief
in God's love for you and His promises for your
life. Â Ouch! Did you get that? Tough
stuff! Â I am still trying to wrap my
mind around it. Â What I am seeing in my
own life is a woman who's responses have not lined
up with who she claims to be...ugh! Sounds like a
heart probelm to me! Not pretty!! This revelation
has really challenged me in EVERY area of my
life.
It seems like on the onslaught of pain, the enemy
tries to give us a dose of amnesia when it comes to
WHO we KNOW our God is and WHO we are in Him. We
become so consumed with our pain and every detail
of  our husband's choices that nothing
else seems to matter. Â Not only are our
hearts broken but our mind becomes the enemy's
battleground to cause further damage.
 He takes advantage of every
opportunity to destroy TRUTH with LIES.
What if I told you…
We gave away and distributed more than 1000 resources to individuals who were seeking freedom. We have not even scratched the surface of this struggle. Â
Stories came in about how men were finding freedom!
We counseled and assisted over 70 churches in helping individuals with their addiction to porn.
We worked directly with high school students on their recovery from pornography. More importantly, we saw them come to grips with their struggle and start on a path of freedom.
We were invited to share our wisdom on a global platform for parenting called the FLOW Summit. The two sessions are about having conversations on pornography and sex. Â
Our Plans for 2013
All of our online videos will now be FREE.
We will post every video from ALL of our resources online for free. You will see nearly 40 new videos added to the Freedom Begins Here SiteÂ
We are working on some brand new video content.
We want to impact more lives, so we will post sections of our Devotional Journal online for FREE!
We will give away more free resources in 2013 with the goal of impacting 5,000 lives. Â Â
So What Is Your Part?
Please tell anyone who is working with this issue that they can get free resources on our website. Communicate that freedom is possible! Â
Pray that we gain supporters so this message can continue!
Read the full postIf I speak in the tongues of men and of angels,
but have not love, I am only a
resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.Â
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom
all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a
faith that can move mountains,
but have not love, I am nothing. If I
give all I possess to the poor and
surrender my body to the flames, but have not love,
I gain nothing. Â
Love is patient, love is kind. It does
not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
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It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not
easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs. Love
does not delight in evil but rejoices with the
truth. Â
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes,
always perseveres. Â
Love never fails. Â
But where there are prophecies, they will cease;
where there are tongues, they will be
stilled;
where there is knowledge, it will pass
away. For we know in part and we
prophesy in part,
but when perfection comes, the imperfect
disappears. When I was a child, I
talked like a child,
I thought like a child, I seasoned like a
child. When I became a man, I put
childish ways behind me.
 Now we see but a poor reflection as
in a mirror; then we shall see face to
face. Now I know in part;
 then I shall know fully, even as I am
fully known.
 And now these three remain: faith,
hope and love. Â
But the greatest of these is
love.   Â
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1 Corinthians 13
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Below is a post from Jeff Fisher a friend who leads another organization called Porn to Purity www.porntopurity.com.  I really like his message and hope to share more of his thoughts in the future. Â
Recently, I’ve been going back to the gym. It’s a good habit, but it’s rough when I haven’t done it a while. My muscles have atrophied and haven’t been challenged in a while. So the last couple of days I have been sore, tired, achy.Â
I could help but think about my sexual purity journey and the recovery process. I have sexual purity muscles that get exercised when I dive into recovery. It is a necessary shock to my system. I want to highlight some of these areas that get a workout when we dive into sexual purity.
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Read the full postWhy God? Â Haven't I done what I was
supposed to do?
Why this?  Haven't I
faithfully attended church and served in
ministry?
Why now? Â Haven't I fasted, prayed, and
read your Word?
Why me? Â Haven't I pleased you Lord by
living like a christian woman should?
Why MY marriage? Haven't
 I been a Godly wife?
Why MY husband? Â Haven't I prayed SO
many prayers for him and over him?
Why God? Why didn't you stop him?
Sound familiar? Â Chances are, you are
reading this blog because you have found out about
your husband's addiction to porn.
 Chances are, at some point you have
shouted these questions to God. Â I have
too. Â It's okay, my friend, because God
can handle it. Â BUT, maybe we need to
look a little deeper and examine the root of these
questions and our belief system.
Today we filmed two talks for the Global Parenting and New Media Summit. One is about Talking to Your Kids About Pornography and the other one is on Talking to Your Kids About Sex.Â
We're excited about the Global Parenting & New Media Summit!
This awesome event brings all 12 experts in the same room to provide solutions for our digital age, and Brent is one of them!
Learn all about Cyber Bullying, Sexting, Internet Pornography and all the stuff parents today need to know about.Â
Also essential for pastors, counsellors, youth workers and anyone who works with kids, teens and families. Â
Check it out here:Â www.FLOWsummits.com
To enjoy a $50 discount off this online event, register at www.FLOWsummits.com/registration and use the discount code ‘freedombeginshere’.Â
Read the full postYou now know his secret. Your
husband is addicted to porn.
More than likely, you caught your husband looking
at porn or you found it by accident on the
computer.  You were hoping
it was just a slip up, a wrong click of the mouse,
a one time event. But as time has gone
by and more truth has been revealed, you realize it
wasn't a one time event but an ongoing
obsession. The choice that you will
eventually have to make is whether you should tell
somebody or not.
Your husband, most likely, will not want anybody to
know. He may be telling YOU to keep it
a secret. After all, it is his secret
not yours. It's his to
keep. The truth is, you feel so
shameful about this new discovery that you are okay
with not telling anyone. What would
others think? You begin believing the
lie that it is best for nobody to
know. It could destroy the "perfect"
christian family image that you portray to those
around you. So you hide your pain. You
put your mask on every time you leave your
home. You smile, determined to not let
anyone see your wounded heart. You
pull back from others. You seclude
yourself, so fearful that those who know you
best may catch you at a
week moment and see your brokenness. You make
excuses for not going out with your
girlfriends. You cry yourself to sleep
at night. Nobody knows what it is like to be you.
And part of you is just fine with that. The other
part of you wants so badly to be heard, to be
understood, to be free from the secret that has
left your heart so painfully shattered.
What do you do?
Last Thursday night, the Transparent
Ministries board was arriving for our monthly
meeting. As the last board member walked in, he
said, “Brent there is a guy
outside saying he is supposed to be at this
meeting.†We looked at each other
perplexed. We were all there. Who was this guy?
Brent went out to talk to him as the rest of us
started the meeting.
But this meeting quickly took a turn for the
worst.
When it comes to wives of husbands who are
addicted to porn we often hear words like
co-addict, enabler  and co-dependent.
 Then we add a few labels of our own to
the mix and before we know it, our true identity is
hidden and soon lost amid the pain and brokenness
of our circumstances. Â No wonder our
journey to healing and wholeness is filled with
roadblocks and obstacles.
I find it disheartening that because you and I have
been a wife of a  husband addicted to
porn, we are given labels that bring MORE shame
into our already broken world. We
can mistakenly perceive some
of these labels as indicators that we are somehow
partially at fault for our husband's
addiction.
Because we love a man who is or has been addicted
to porn, we are quickly labeled as a co-addict.
 Meaning, we have an addiction, as
well. Â Not to porn, of course, but our
addiction is to our addicted husband. This is our
disease. Â It does not matter that we
had no clue of our husband's addiction when we
began our relationship with him, we are
automatically labeled and need to seek recovery.
The good news is, there is no cure and the best to
hope for is remission in which we must engage in
for the rest of our lives. Really???
John shared his story with us recently. His journey is one of temptation, pain, loss, and redemption.Â
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