Freedom Begins Here Blog

An Update!

Mon, 29 Mar 2010 19:36:36 +0000

Start the Conversation Discussion Questions

Mon, 22 Mar 2010 15:43:23 +0000

Jacob�s Story: Purity

Since God created sex and it is good (within marriage) why do we struggle to talk about it?

Why would it be a struggle having sex at an early age?

How do choices now affect future relationships?

What is purity? What are you told that it is at church? At school?

Do you want your parents to sit down and to be honest with you?

Why do we have so many misconceptions about sex and why do we avoid discussing it in church? How do we protect ourselves in this sexually saturated society?

Joy�s Story: Self-Image

What types of messages does culture send to us?

What does it mean to guard you heart?

How can relationships be difficult? Are Christians that are relationship more complex?

Is physical image the most important feature when you choose a boyfriend or girlfriend, or is it something else to you? What is it?

Why do you think God asks for sexual patience?

Besides just saying NO, are we being taught in church how to navigate through culture when God says one thing and culture says another?

Jamie�s Story: Talk About It

How are we supposed to help people who have struggles?

What did you do the first time you saw porn? Does that image remain with you?

Did you ever feel you were the odd man out in a conversation around sex? How did it make you feel?

Who have you had conversations around sex? Do you have an parent or adult to talk about sexual issues or questions?

If so many good people are involved in porn, sex, etc. why is it a touchy subject?

Who do you know that you can help that no on else is helping?

Kevin�s Story: Confronting The Issues

Do you prefer to confront big issues or to ignore them? Why?

Do you think porn and sex is rampant in our culture?

Do you believe 12 to 17 year olds are the largest users of Internet porn?

How is God view of sex different from our cultures view? What do you think?

How can we personally support purity and not come off as judgmental?

JD�s Story: Integrity

Discovery of porn on the internet�. how has it affected you?

How does porn affect relationships? Have you known someone affect by it?

So when we view porn or have sex does it affect other people?

What characteristic of Christ do you think that people see in you? What characteristics would you like them to see?

What is grace? Are there limits to grace?

Sarah�s Story: Vulnerable Situations

What did parents teach you? Baseball, swimming, instrument etc�

Have you been in situations that were uncomfortable with the opposite sex? How do we avoid these situations?

In you have a sex question, who do you go to?

James 5:16 �Confess your sins to one another that you may be healed�. Do you do this? Why or why not?

What does it mean that God is strong in our weakness? Does God give us more than we can handle?

Jimmy�s Story: Porn

Have you ever felt isolated with your struggles?

Have you every felt you were not in control of your sin?

Confession is good? Yes or No?

Has someone walked you through a difficult time? Have you ever been that �one� to anyone?

Why is it often harder to do right than to do wrong?

Wes�s Story: Sex

Does everyone struggle so why does everyone act perfect?

How is pornography addiction different from drugs and drinking? How is it the same?

Is purity good or bad � realistic or not?

Should we always avoid �awkward�? When should we not?

Is it awkward to talk about seex after we get started talking about it?

Anne Jackson Interview

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:17:31 +0000

Check out this cool interview with Anne Jackson. Talking about transparency, safety, and confession in the church. Wow!!! http://samsonsociety.podbean.com/2010/01/25/can-girls-get-hooked-on-porn-too/

A Message To Pastors and Church Leaders: Your People Are Ready

Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:54:32 +0000

A few weeks ago, I attended the National Men's Ministries Leadership Conference for the Assemblies of God. During this conference a pastor from Idaho spoke on church growth. He discussed the need to reach men in your community as the greatest opportunity for growth in churches today. He has seen consistent growth by reaching men in his community. One of the reasons for his growth has come because they are dealing with real issues. Men are coming to hear how his church is addressing issues like pornography, with hope and with restoration. Message to pastors and church leaders, people are ready to address issues that are holding us back from true freedom. We all have mess in our lives and everyone is ready to be real. We are all tired of wearing masks in front of people who are struggling with similar issues. Let�s be real and create an environment where church is a place for healing and restoration. Rick

Video Blog: Upcoming in 2010...

Fri, 05 Mar 2010 15:04:36 +0000

Talk is cheap.

Tue, 16 Feb 2010 17:23:32 +0000

We attended a Men�s Ministries Leadership Conference earlier this month. The speakers were great, and the attendees were nice. Good and solid people who love the Lord. The epidemic of pornography (now in the church) was mentioned at least 4 or 5 times by the speakers from the stage. The struggles that Christians face in regard to this temptation and stronghold as well as the enormity of the crisis were thoroughly addressed. Yet, very few came by the Freedom Begins Here booth to learn how this may be dealt with in their men�s group or church. Very few were looking for resources, plans, ideas, or thoughts. Why? Is it fear? Is it a refusal to face the truth? Is it because it is hard to deal with real issues as opposed to just talking about them? Were they struggling with this issue themselves? Did that make them believe that they, therefore, can�t address it in a group? Or, do they just really not care? I do not know. I do know this, though. Pornography can be addressed in church in a loving and tactful way. People are actually desperate for this to be done. They are suffering in anonymity and silence. This issue is not going away. It is only getting bigger. It will rear its ugly head eventually in ruined relationships, marriages, families, and careers. It will have to be dealt with then. Shouldn�t the church be proactive and deal with it now before the destruction comes? Isn�t this what the church ought to be about? Don�t we owe our members that? Doesn�t God expect it, as well? What is it going to take for the church to not just talk about it but to put plans in place to do something about it as well?

A Message from Freedom Begins Here!

Wed, 27 Jan 2010 14:41:07 +0000

Dear FBH Partner, We would like to take this opportunity to say Thank You for your support of Freedom Begins Here in 2009. You have meant so very much to us, and we trust our resources have meant much to you as well. 2010 is a pivotal year for Freedom Begins Here. And frankly, we need your help. We are asking you to please contact three or more church leaders in your community about Freedom Begins Here. To make this easy, we have attached a letter below that you may simply print out and give to the church leaders that you choose. In this letter, we will be offering them a FREE information packet. The crisis of pornography continues to affect people in our own lives. Good people. People we love. Family and friends. This temptation and stronghold is not going away. And, with your prayers and support, we do not plan to go away either. One of the most frequently asked questions we hear is �How can I execute addressing the issue of pornography at the church level?� Well, we can equip churches to do that. Besides resources, we now offer workshops and conferences showing how churches can create a safe environment in order to facilitate this conversation so desperately needed to protect ourselves and to protect our families. We ask for your prayers, and if at all possible, that you would please contact every church leader that you can with the letter attached below about Freedom Begins Here. We appreciate all you have done for us in 2009, and we really do need your help, word of mouth, and support in this pivotal 2010. Thank you so much, Freedom Begins Here Download church leader letter (76 KB zip file)

Covenant Eyes iPhone App Review

Thu, 31 Dec 2009 14:36:48 +0000

We at Freedom Begins Here have been waiting a long time for the Covenant Eyes iPhone Application to come out... and it is finally here! Freedom Begins Here and Covenant Eyes have a long-standing partnership and we've been excited to see what this App would hold when released. (Just a quick "what we do": Freedom Begins Here primarily aids with diagnosis and recovery for sexual addiction and Covenant Eyes deals in accountability and monitoring of internet usage.) Covenant Eyes has had quite a bit of trouble getting their App launched, but it has officially been approved by Apple as of last week. Here is our review: Prior to Covenant Eyes, only a few developers had launched similar web-browser monitoring services. The iPhone has built-in disabling options for Safari, YouTube, iTunes and protections for Music, Movies, TV Shows and App downloads (both of which can be password protected). Covenant Eyes released their App as a web browser, much like Safari, instead of a monitoring system. Apple does not allow monitoring applications to be running in the background of the default iPhone Safari browser. Covenant Eyes can be found in the App store through a simple search, or under the Utilities Category. Restrictions DO need to be disabled in order to download the App because it is rated 17+ (required because it is an internet browser, and the internet unfortunately contains objectionable content). Covenant Eyes recommends that you disable your Safari, YouTube and even App store if needed and allow all internet access and usage to pass through the Covenant Eyes App. An accountability partner would set the password protection on your phone and iTunes store to limit your access. Once these restrictions are set, the Covenant Eyes App can be used to login using your usual login and password from your Covenant Eyes account before accessing the internet. Great if you have an account already, but if not, you will need to visit Covenant Eyes to register prior to using the App. The application itself is a complete web browser, there is no blocking or filtering, merely monitoring. You will still be able to access all websites and Google searches, but everything will be tracked to an accountability partner on your standard report. The App has only a few shortcomings including no auto-fill and some glitches with the keyboard, but it navigates just like Safari for the most part. All in all, the App isn't an end-all solution for those struggling with internet porn, but it is a HUGE step in the right direction for protection on mobile devices. This App will work great for those serious about accountability and for parents looking to safe-guard their "iKids". Check it out! We highly recommend this App for iPhone users! Covenant Eyes Breaking Free Blog Covenant Eyes iPhone App User Guide Note: Safe Eyes also has an App out there, if you want to pay additional for it, and XXXChurch is about to release their X3Watch browser App as well.

UNCENSORED. (1:30 minute preview clip)

Thu, 18 Feb 2010 20:03:11 +0000

UNCENSORED is a multimedia presentation concerning the temptation and the stronghold of pornography in our Christian culture today. It is designed for Christian college campuses but may be modified for a community event or a community youth event. If you have questions, need further information, or if you would like to schedule UNCENSORED for your Christian college campus or as a community church or youth event please contact us at 1-800-364-6863 or at brent@freedombeginshere.org or at rick@freedombeginshere.org.

Christians Demand Sex Trafficking

Thu, 10 Dec 2009 15:05:32 +0000

I just watched this YouTube video from PureJustice that discusses sex trafficking and how that there is a consensus that the normalization and proliferation of pornography is a driving force behind the explosion of this evil due to the increased demand for supply. That makes sense based on the fact that sex trafficking is defined by US federal law as " the recruitment, harboring, transportation, provision, or obtaining of a person for the purpose of a commercial sex act." And, no one can argue that there is a "voracious" demand for more and more commercial sex acts committed to video. At the very least, the normalization and proliferation of pornography has created a climate where human beings are objectified and our culture is becoming more and more desensitized and tolerant of that. Instead of viewing men and women as created in the image of God with dignity and worth, the pornography culture views them as exploitable objects and commodities to be used. Sounds like a culture much more accepting of sex trafficking, doesn't it? I mean after all, they are only objects being used for our entertainment and pleasure! Now, we would never say that, but isn't that the natural (unnatural?) progression? Every Christian would probably agree that sex trafficking is evil. Yet, when we support the pornography industry and that mentality by viewing and buying pornography, aren't we contributing to their mindset? Aren't we contributing to the demand? Aren't we asking for a greater supply? Aren't we, by our lack of personal resistance, giving our approval? Who, that we are lustfully watching for our own personal pleasure, has been "recruited, harbored, transported, provided, or obtained for the purpose of a commercial sexual act?" Congratulations, we must not really think that sex trafficking is all that bad! Pornography is an intoxicating lure. However, it has a hellish underbelly. It has a hellish supply chain. It has a hellish aftermath. And, it is a hellish master. So, Christian, indulge and enjoy. No harm done. Right? Pornography and sex trafficking is so grateful for the church's (the body of Christ's, if you are a believer) tolerance, demand, and support! Please plan ahead of time to remind yourself of "supply and demand" the next time you are seductively tempted to participate in this objectification of human beings created in the image of God and in this conduit of sex trafficking. I pray that it will not be quite so appealing then. And, may the Lord use that to provide the way of escape to freedom. Rick

What if Jesus Meant all that Stuff

Mon, 07 Dec 2009 14:05:02 +0000

I recently read a message by Shane Claiborne in Esquire Magazine. It is a powerful message to the non-believer, sort of believing and used to be believing friends of his. Shane Claiborne is a Christian that lives his life outside of the evangelical bubble. He has authored two powerful books "Irresistible Revolution" and "Jesus for President". Please click on this link http://www.esquire.com/print-this/shane-claiborne-1209 to read his powerful message. The concern I continue to have is how will we reach the next generation for Christ. My perception is that we struggle to be real and we worry about making Jesus look good and all along we really make him look bad because we live hypocritical lives. So I am sure you are saying "Why is he writing this blog when Freedom Begins Here is a ministry that is dealing with Pornography?" Well the biggest barrier we face is that church lacks honesty about how many people are bond by the issue of pornography within the church. As we speak with pastors, lay leaders and individuals on this issue almost everyone states our ministry is needed but no one is doing anything about it. We have only found a few churches that are willing to address this issue with the average church member or attender. Now let me state that our need to reach the next generation will be based on becoming real and allowing people to see our shortcoming and the transforming power of the Holy Spirit. So what is my point? It is time for all of us to take a look at what we are doing in our Christian lives and become real. The key to transformation is transparency in our lives. I heard recently that a well know Christian leader stated without individual Christians living transparent lives we will not see revival in the church. I hesitated putting this up on the blog because of Esquire visual images. A friend here at FBH helped me with link to only view the text of Shane's message. Thanks, Brent

Video Blog: Naked Truth Conference Pt. 2

Tue, 24 Nov 2009 20:03:02 +0000

UNCENSORED. (full-length version)

Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:17:27 +0000

Freedom Begins Here featured on Life Today with James Robison

Thu, 18 Feb 2010 20:04:01 +0000

Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham discuss freedom from sexual sin.

Pornography Awareness Week: Video Pt. 2

Mon, 02 Nov 2009 19:54:28 +0000

What would the church look like as a "safe place?"

Pornography Awareness Week: New Video

Tue, 27 Oct 2009 13:43:59 +0000

What does your church say about transparency and grace?

The team at Freedom Begins Here recently traveled to the Naked Truth Conference in Rochester, Minnesota. Participants there are hungry for more transparency and grace within the church. Watch this short video and give us your feedback.

Video Blog: Thanks for your support!

Fri, 23 Oct 2009 20:45:52 +0000

Thanks for the support!

Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:48:43 +0000

On behalf of Freedom Begins Here, we just wanted to thank everyone who has shown support over the last couple of days! There has been an overwhelming response from some of our recent sessions and the James Robison show yesterday and today. A lot of you may be finding your way here, but are unsure what to do next. Here's some tips: 1) Check out our free video downloads under the VIDEOS tab on the top left of the page. 2) Educate yourself! We have a lot of material here: books, videos, DVD resources. Most of them are geared for people who are struggling with porn and sexual addictions themselves, but we have found that if anybody educates themselves by watching and reading our resources, they are just that more able to help someone in need. 3) Tell someone. Chances are you came here because you yourself are struggling with these difficult issues, or because you know (or pretty sure you know) someone who is. Educate yourself about our resources and let them know. Thanks again, and let's keep generating some of this support, tell people about us, email the link, embed a video to your facebook, tweet something that you find helpful. There are a lot of people out there looking for help, but we need your help for them to find us! Thanks! -Jameson

Video Blog: Share Your Story

Wed, 09 Sep 2009 13:33:25 +0000

Jameson and Rick introduce several new avenues for you to share your stories. Read stories, and submit your own at: http://www.freedombeginshere.org/stories Email your stories to us at: safe@freedombeginshere.org Call and leave your story in the form of a voicemail: 479-633-SAFE (479-633-7233) Prices reduced on ALL Personal ToolKit downloadable content: http://www.freedombeginshere.org/videos/?tag=Personal And finally, A list of upcoming events where you can connect with members from our team is available at: http://www.freedombeginshere.org/events/ Okay, one more thing... Leave us any feedback you have at: feedback@freedombeginshere.org

We're at Men at the Cross in Baton Rouge, LA!!!!

Tue, 08 Sep 2009 16:27:24 +0000

Yeah, the title says it all.

Personal ToolKit Downloadable Content $0.99 for a limited time!

Mon, 10 Aug 2009 20:42:07 +0000

We've dropped the prices of ALL the videos contained on the Personal ToolKit DVD from $1.99 to $0.99 for a limited time. If you're still not sure about the Personal ToolKit, check out a video or two and see what you think! All of the Personal ToolKit videos can be found on this page: http://www.freedombeginshere.org/videos/?tag=Personal

Sex Questions

Mon, 10 Aug 2009 20:36:18 +0000

On the blog, Jesus Needs New PR, Matthew Paul Turner opened up what seems to be Pandora's Box when it comes to questions from Christians about...SEX! I really appreciate Matthew's open and candid way of dealing with issues related to the Church. You should definitely check it out: http://jesusneedsnewpr.blogspot.com/2009/07/sex-questions-welcomed.html

Men at the Cross

Mon, 10 Aug 2009 20:36:23 +0000

We are in St. Louis this weekend for a Men at the Cross event. Come out and see us if you are in the area! So far, we've had some great conversations with folks who are really dealing with this issue and a lot who are ready to help others. It is very exciting. Here are some of the funnier/interesting things people said today: Me: How are you sir? Guy #1: Up to my armpits in favor and lovin every minute of it. Me: Oh, that's good...I think? Guy #2: Hey! Where are the "I love my wife" bumper stickers? Guy #3: Hey, are you that guy from those videos? Me: Um...I guess. Guy #4: Is this available in Portuguese? (Sounded like, "Does this have sheets?") Rick: Well, it has a guidebook and a Devotional Journal. And one very awkward handskake attempt gone wrong. Standing there holding my hand out, guy never sees me, then I try to act like I wasn't.

Printable Posters, Information Sheets and More!!!

Thu, 16 Jul 2009 20:14:40 +0000

We've had a few bands contact us and ask for material they can pass out at their concerts, so we had Natalie and Kyle make some really cool posters. Here's one of the posters you can download: Download all the freedom begins here posters on the Freedom Begins Here Movement page.

Making a Masterpiece AKA Spraypainting Graffiti all over a perfectly good banner

Tue, 14 Jul 2009 18:28:28 +0000

Watch FBH Videos on your iPhone

Fri, 10 Jul 2009 16:31:56 +0000

Tyler just added a cool new feature to the website that allows you to watch (and download) all of the FBH videos on your iPhone. http://www.freedombeginshere.org/videos/

Making a Sex and Graffiti Banner

Thu, 09 Jul 2009 18:27:19 +0000

We decided to go out on a limb and do something that will grab people's attention and maybe even get us kicked out of the upcoming International Christian Retail Show (although we hope not!). Kyle, our intern, and Natalie, our designer came up with the idea to spray graffiti all over one of our existing trade show banners. They spent an untold number of hours and it turned out great! Check out the photos of us cutting out tons of stencils that helped make the final product. Huge props to Kyle and Natalie!!

Dirty Little Secret

Thu, 09 Jul 2009 16:14:55 +0000

'34 percent. That's how many readers of Today's Christian Woman's online newsletter admitted to intentionally accessing Internet porn in a recent poll.' Read the full article here: http://www.christianitytoday.com/tcw/2003/sepoct/5.58.html

Video Blog: Ipod Winners / PornAintPretty

Tue, 07 Jul 2009 14:22:27 +0000

We're announcing the Ipod Winners, along with sharing more information about PornAintPretty.com http://www.efcatoday.org/ or download the pdf: http://www.efcatoday.org/files/magazine/documents/EFCA_Summer09_feature.pdf

Share This on Facebook and Twitter!

Thu, 25 Jun 2009 21:19:02 +0000

In addition to the "Embed This" and "Share" buttons, we have added share buttons for both Facebook and Twitter! Check out Father + Son: Talk About Sex to try it out!

Porn Ain't Pretty

Thu, 16 Jul 2009 20:14:11 +0000

We can't keep it a secret any longer! It's a new project called Porn Ain't Pretty.com It's a collection of original artwork that tells the story of Freedom Begins Here in a unique way. Here are a couple of samples: Over the past few years we've received literally hundreds of emails, stories, and confessions from people who struggle with porn. But instead of letting those stories just sit in our inbox, we got really creative and decided to use art to bring the stories to life. Kyle, our intern, and Natalie, our designer/photographer have come up with some amazing original artwork to tell your stories. Why do this? We know there are a lot of you who want to get involved with this cause, but many of you don't know how. Post a link to the art on your Facebook page, email the art to a friend, or download it as a desktop background. Want us to make art out of your story? This will be an ongoing project, and we are putting out a call for stories. So tell us yours on the stories page of our website. We want to know what you think about this! Want to see more? Don't like it at all? Please respond by posting your thoughts on this blog entry.

Another reason the church needs to address pornography

Tue, 23 Jun 2009 15:15:10 +0000

'Baptist Church director resigns after he's linked to child porn' The director of children's programs at the First Baptist Church of St. Charles has resigned after authorities began investigating him on suspicion of child pornography, Senior Pastor David Sheppard said today. The man has not been arrested but detectives with the St. Charles County Sheriff's Department seized his computer Friday at the church, 2701 Muegge Road, Sheppard said. The man worked part time running children's programs at the church for 4 1/2 years. Sheppard said authorities also seized the man's home computer. The man was not an ordained minister and had worked for the church running children's programs, Bible school and evening youth services, Sheppard said. He has spoken to the man's family, who are members of the church. "They're one of the finest families in the church," Sheppard said. "They are totally devastated about this." Read the full article: http://www.stltoday.com/stltoday/news/stories.nsf/stcharles/story/E77195AFE9F544FA862575DD0071AE66?OpenDocument

Thank you Bing!

Mon, 22 Jun 2009 16:30:46 +0000

A big thanks goes out to Bing.com for the Safe Search Update! Taken from Bing.com's blog: "First, potentially explicit images and video content will now be coming from a separate single domain, explicit.bing.net. This is invisible to the end customer, but allows for filtering of that content by domain which makes it much easier for customers at all levels to block this content regardless of what the SafeSearch settings might be. This makes it much easier for filtering software to block unwanted content if SafeSearch has been turned off." Continue reading...

VIDEO BLOG: Microsoft's Bing.com Puts Porn in Motion

Mon, 22 Jun 2009 18:20:59 +0000

Our thoughts on Microsoft's new search engine bing.com in regards to accountability, parenting, and filters. Related articles: http://news.cnet.com/8301-19518_3-10258458-238.html http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,524019,00.html

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Thu, 18 Jun 2009 15:03:13 +0000

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Freedombeginshere.org has a New Look!

Thu, 18 Jun 2009 15:03:26 +0000

Father+Son: Talk About Sex PREVIEW VIDEO

Thu, 18 Jun 2009 15:03:52 +0000

Exciting news! The 'Father+Son' DVD and Guidebook is finished and headed off to printing/duplication today. Here is a 60 second preview of our latest (and coolest) product. Pre-Order 'Father+Son: Talk About Sex' NOW!

New Video Idea!

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:17:33 +0000

We have another idea for a video and we need your help! Since you helped us make "Freedom Is" such a success, we decided to ask you for more ideas. We want to create a video about �SAFE PLACES.� Where do you go to find unconditional acceptance, love, forgiveness, and accountability? We want to use real thoughts from real people(don�t worry, we will keep your name anonymous). So, the question we want you to answer is: WHAT IS YOUR �SAFE PLACE?� Please respond in the comment box below. Thank you so much for your help!

VIDEO BLOG 7: "SEXTING" What is it and what can you do about it?

Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:55:00 +0000

A growing trend among teens: "sexting" or texting nude imagery, videos, photos or messages to friends, classmates, boyfriends and girlfriends. SEXTING STATISTICS*: � 20% of all teens say they have sent nude or semi-nude pictures or videos of themselves. That's one in five! � 39% of all teens are sending or posting sexually suggestive messages What can parents do to help their kids avoid this? Watch to find out. Also includes an interview with Covenant Eyes' Scott McClurg. * These statistics are from a recent survey of 1,280 students conducted by The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy.

VIDEO BLOG 6: Focus on the Family Employee Arrested

Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:55:05 +0000

A man who narrates Christian CDs for Focus on the Family has been arrested on suspicion of using the Internet to arrange sex with a teenage girl. Link to original story: http://www.denverpost.com/news/ci_12083195

VIDEO BLOG 5: University to Screen Porn Film & Connie's Story

Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:55:08 +0000

Having trouble with this video? Try the YouTube version - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t-Vh522hRSw IN THIS EPISODE: - University of Maryland to screen porn film - Connie's Story Don't forget to check out our latest DVD release, Start the Conversation! � Features 8 Christian Musicians � Stories of struggle, grace, and redemption � Perfect for youth groups � Bonus videos Rush of Fools, Joy Lippard, Jimmy Needham and Sarah Reeves! Artists from the Wonder of the World Tour share stories of sex, image, pornography, purity, family, marriage and growing up. Fast-paced, real and motivational, this is one DVD you will not want to miss out on!

New DVD Available!

Thu, 21 May 2009 21:09:32 +0000

"Start the Conversation" � Features 8 Christian Musicians � Stories of struggle, grace, and redemption � Perfect for youth groups � Bonus videos Rush of Fools, Joy Lippard, Jimmy Needham and Sarah Reeves! Artists from the Wonder of the World Tour share stories of sex, image, pornography, purity, family, marriage and growing up. Fast-paced, real and motivational, this is one DVD you will not want to miss out on!

University of Maryland student union to screen porn film

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:17:45 +0000

The student union at the University of Maryland, College Park, will be showing a hard-core pornographic film this weekend, causing some to worry that the university is promoting the degradation of women. Here is the link to the full story: http://www.baltimoresun.com/news/local/bal-movie0401,0,2728185.story What do you think?

Economy has women turning to stripping

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:17:47 +0000

I just saw a story on FOX News that during the economic recession, the stripper industry has seen an influx in participants. Women who are jobless are turning to 'the pole' as a means for an income. Some strippers can make up to $200,000 or $300,000 a year. Business executives and college students along with others laid off can not afford to pay bills, so they are forced to accept the only job offer they have received, and it doesn't pay poorly. Mothers and Wives are all participating: said one new stripper: "You gotta do what you gotta do." Clubs are seeing doubling incomes. Some that did $30 Million in business are projected to do $60 this year and one doing $20 Million is on course for $40. It's obvious that our projection that more people would turn to Porn during the recession is true, and we can only hope that people will seek Freedom as well. http://www.foxnews.com/video/index.html?playerId=videolandingpage&streamingFormat=FLASH&referralObject=4081269&referralPlaylistId=playlist

VIDEO BLOG 4: New Video Premiere | Father+Son Pre-Order

Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:56:20 +0000

Having trouble with this video? Try the YouTube version - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wMcNcIKeCmo IN THIS EPISODE: - New Video Premiere - Father+Son Sneak Peek & Pre-Order - Other Interesting Things! PRE-ORDER 'Father+Son: Talk About Sex'!

VIDEO BLOG: EPISODE 3

Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:56:24 +0000

Having trouble watching this video? Try the YouTube version - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eZPkS90fZCE IN THIS EPISODE: - Hate Mail - Find a safe place - New Website - Father+Son Update - Iron Sharpens Iron PLEASE GIVE US FEEDBACK IN THE COMMENTS BELOW!

Hate Mail

Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:57:19 +0000

Normally we receive nice encouraging emails or emails from people looking for help. However, on occasion we get emails like this one: On Mar 6, 2009, at 3:14 PM, ________. wrote: i demand that you stop contacting me. porn is the american way and you are insulting it. you are insulting america. go away! ------------------------------------------- On Mar 6, 2009 Bryson Moore wrote: ______, You have been removed from our list. Just so you know, our goal is not to eliminate the porn industry. We are here to help people whose lives are affected by it. We won't bother you anymore, but we're not going away any time soon. Regards, Bryson Moore ------------------------------------------- On Mar 6, 2009, at 4:32 PM, ________ wrote: nice. after harassing me for years, you finally agree to remove me from your list, AFTER THE TENTH TIME I COMPLAINED and despite the fact that i don't haul you into court, you still sign off with a snotty remark. earth to religious nut: PORN WILL OUTLIVE YOU. you WILL go away before it does. ------------------------------------------- We will talk more about this on the upcoming video blog!

New Website Coming Soon!

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:18:09 +0000

This is all you get to see for now, but trust us, the new website is going to be super cool. Stay tuned for updates.

Cable and Satellite Providers to Push Pay-per-View Porn

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:18:11 +0000

Interesting article about how the big cable and satellite companies plan to offer more affordable and more accessible adult content: http://adage.com/mediaworks/article?article_id=135123

VIDEO BLOG: EPISODE 2

Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:56:36 +0000

IN THIS EPISODE: - Practical Advice & Ideas - Retail: 'The Dimmitt Update' - Father + Son Update - Mother + Daughter Update - Media Appearance QUESTIONS FOR FEEDBACK: - What do you think about the video blog? - Is it helpful? - What can we improve?

VIDEO BLOG: EPISODE 1

Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:57:24 +0000

IN THIS EPISODE: - Rush of Fools on tour - 'Start the Conversation' DVD - 'Father + Son' DVD soon to be released! QUESTIONS FOR FEEDBACK: 1. Do you like the new Video Blog? 2. How often would you like to receive updates (weekly, monthly, daily)? 3. Other feedback? Let us know!

FREEDOM IS ________________.

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:18:17 +0000

WE HAVE AN IDEA FOR A NEW VIDEO BUT WE NEED YOUR HELP! In a couple of weeks, we will kick off the Wonder of the World Tour featuring Rush of Fools, Jimmy Needham,Sarah Reeves and Joy Lippard. We want to create a video for the concert that will inspire people to find freedom. We want to use real thoughts from real people (don�t worry, we will keep your name anonymous). So, the question we want you to answer is: FREEDOM IS _____________________________. Please respond in the comment box below. Thank you so much for your help!

Jeff's Story

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:19:24 +0000

Our team wants to share a very special video with you. It is a story that captures everything we've worked so hard for over the past five years at Freedom Begins Here. It is the story of Jeff Fowler. Jeff has seen some hard times in his life, including an addiction to pornography that destroyed two marriages. In this video our team captures the story of Jeff's struggle and how he rediscovered grace through Freedom Begins Here. We love hearing all of your comments about our work! We've provided some questions below to help you give us feedback. QUESTIONS FOR FEEDBACK: 1. Does Jeff's story inspire you to tell others about FBH? 2. Would you like to see more stories like Jeff's? 3. Do you know someone who would benefit from seeing this? 4. For those who have gone through FBH, do you have a story you would like to share?

New Video: What do you think?

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:19:37 +0000

Renovation is part of Jeff's DNA. He's been in construction since he could swing a hammer. To him there is nothing more satisfying than transforming a old house into something new and beautiful. But to Jeff, renovation is more personal than drywall or tile grout. Jeff has seen some hard times in his life, including an addiction to pornography that destroyed two marriages. In this video, Jeff talks candidly about the renovation process in his own life, how God created something good out of his mess and the lessons he learned that will help fathers guide their sons down the right path concerning sex and pornography. QUESTIONS FOR FEEDBACK: 1. Did you like the video? 2. Was it effective at communicating the message? 3. Did it make you want to see more? 4. What was good about it? 5. What could be improved? 6. Do you like the title "Abba+Fili"?

New Video Idea: We Need Your Help!

Thu, 21 May 2009 16:40:40 +0000

Our team is working on a new video to help fathers and sons begin the conversation about sex. The working title is Abba + Fili. Whether you are a dad, a son, or just someone who cares, we need your feedback. We want to show you one piece from the DVD to see what you think. The video you will see is called Slide. Keep in mind that Slide is just an intro to the full video. It is not meant to provide meaningful content, the intent is to provide a lighthearted conversation starter for dads and sons. Please watch the video and give us your feedback.

Here is a brief synopsis of �Slide�: In this video, Bryson and Jameson touch on the obstacles in life viewed as a sort of playground. In every playground, there are many obstacles and challenges. There are monkey bars, ladders, walls, bridges, balance beams and jungle gyms. But perhaps the highlight of every playground is the slide. Sure, there are several slides, big small, curved, straight and steep, but every playground has �The BIG Slide.� At first it�s a little scary, but eventually you have to climb up to the top and slide down by yourself. The comfort is knowing that someone will be there waiting for you at the bottom. In this analogy, the big slide represents the scary, often awkward experience of learning about sex and all the challenges that come with it. We all have our �slide�. Sons, tell your dad about some of the obstacles in your life. Dads, tell your son about some of the obstacles you experienced and remember sharing, or perhaps not sharing, with your father? QUESTIONS FOR FEEDBACK: 1. Did you like the video? 2. Was it effective at communicating the message? 3. Did it make you want to see more? 4. What was good about it? 5. What could be improved?

Church ToolKit $100 Price drop!

Tue, 26 May 2009 15:50:10 +0000

Check it out! We dropped the price on the Church ToolKit! The Church ToolKit was originally priced at $199.99. Pick one up for just $99.99 now!

Happy Thanksgiving!!!

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:19:44 +0000

T-Shirt Tuesday

Thu, 04 Jun 2009 13:25:53 +0000

We're giving away a free T-shirt with each order! Just mark your size while checking out and we'll include it in your shipped order! We'll be doing this every week (while supplies last of course, what you think we're made of cotton?!) So hurry up and get yours today! What is T-Shirt Tuesday?

Review our resources!!!

Tue, 26 May 2009 15:47:37 +0000

So we've just finished setting up the review feature in our store. Now you can come back and share your thoughts with others. Did you like our resources? Do you feel like they helped you start your journey to finding freedom? Would you recommend them to others? Your experience could help someone else make their decision and start on their journey to finding freedom from sexual addiction and sexual sin! You can leave a comment or review for any of our resources! Just click "I own this..." and set your rating, along with a comment.

CBS Sunday Morning; Sex Addiction

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:19:50 +0000

The Stories Behind Sex Addiction How Desire And Powerlessness Can Lead To A Compulsion For Sexual Behavior Broadcast Sunday, November 16, 2008

Free Freight Friday!

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:19:52 +0000

Check it out! We're offering FREE shipping on Fridays!!! Check it out at our store.

Firefox Adds 'Porn Mode'

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:20:03 +0000

Developers of the popular Firefox browser have added a new feature that allows users to browse the Internet without leaving behind a digital crumb trail of where they've been. Affectionately titled 'porn mode' (for obvious reasons), the feature has been in the development queue at Mozilla for quite a while. You can read the entire story here: http://www.crn.com/software/212000645 Just another way to further the anonymity of our porn surfing habits. Thanks Firefox, thanks a lot.

Media Buzz

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:20:12 +0000

We�re starting to get some attention from the media. In the past four days, we�ve done five interviews. Four of the interviews were on national programs and one was regional in Arizona/Utah/Colorado. Ted did two of the interviews and I did the other three. Here�s a run down of the interviews with links to the ones available online: Friday, October 31 FamilyNet Radio Mornings with Lorri & Larry Listen to Ted�s interview here: http://itm.edgeboss.net/download/itm/audio/mornings/20081031_ted_cunningham_seg8.mp3 Salem Radio Network SRN News KPCL-FM Day Brightner IRN/USA Radio Network (Bryson�s interview will air sometime this week) Monday, November 3 The Debbie Chavez Show http://debbiechavez.com Listen to Ted�s interview here: http://www.debbiechavez.com/imageuploads/11-3-2.wma

Great New Content Online

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:20:15 +0000

We've made several big updates to the website that you will definitely want to check out. Lots of new videos to watch, stories to read, free stuff to download, and blog entries to peruse. You can even read several days of the 30-Day Devotional Journal online! Here are the pages we've made the most drastic changes to: Freedom For You
Freedom For Your Church
Freedom For Everyone
Online Devotional Journal
Stories More great changes and updates are on the way. Stay tuned!

Pornography Awareness Week

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:20:17 +0000

The National Coalition for Protection of Children and Families (http://www.nationalcoalition.org) has designated this week (Oct. 26 � Nov. 2) �Pornography Awareness Week." And no, this is not your excuse to go out and become more aware of the problem by doing some �research.� (We�ve heard that one before!) In an effort to spread the word, we will be on several radio programs discussing the Freedom Begins Here project and its intended impact on our culture. What can you do to get involved? Here are a few suggestions someone posted on facebook from the National Coalition: http://www.facebook.com/topic.php?uid=2358719220&topic=5476

A look at some of our ads

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:20:19 +0000

We thought you might be interested to see some of the messaging we've been putting out there. Below are a couple of recent ads. Let us know what you think! This ad was featured at the LifeWay Youth Pastors Conference in Nashville a few weeks ago. We created this ad for the CPE retail show in Nashville this year.

The Mentoring Minute

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:20:21 +0000

We are posting some new videos to our Youtube channel. One of them is The Mentoring Minute video that's been playing at all of the Men at the Cross events across the country. Check it out: For users with YouTube blocked, we're going to be compiling a page with all of our videos available for viewing! Check out the Mentoring Minute for starters! The Mentoring Minute

Porn-Again Christian

Thu, 21 May 2009 16:45:26 +0000

Mark Driscoll, pastor of Mars Hill Church in Seattle has posted his book, "Porn-Again Christian: A Frank Discussion on Pornography & Masturbation for God�s Men" for free on the Re:Lit website. He is releasing it a little bit at a time. I haven't read all of the posted chapters yet, but what is there so far is definitely worth reading. Check it out here: http://relit.org/porn_again_christian/

New Story

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:20:24 +0000

There's a new story up! Make sure to check it out. Christopher's story The power of a someone�s testimony of freedom builds hope for our own journey. We find ourselves saying, �Yes! I can have freedom from sexual sin, too.� However, an honest soul knows that addictive habits and behaviors rarely just disappear overnight. It is a moment by moment battle, that cries out for accountability and grace every step of the way. Being honest about the battle is often the greatest step taken out of chains that bind. Do you have a story to tell? Don�t be shy. Your story could be key to someone else�s first step towards freedom. We have set up a specific place at www.freedombeginshere.org for your stories. Be sure to check out www.freedombeginshere.org/?page=stories to read the testimonies of others and share your own story.

Small Group Pack

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:20:35 +0000

We are really excited to offer our newest resource, the Freedom Begins Here Small Group Pack. Many of you have expressed the desire to use the FBH material in your small groups. The Small Group Pack includes: � Small Group Guide � DVD & 5 Devotional Journals � Covenant Eyes CD (30-day trial) included in every Devotional Journal. The Small Group Pack shows you how to use the Freedom Begins Here material to create a safe place where your group can be challenged and equipped to guard their hearts, flee temptation and find complete freedom from sexual sin. The 30-Day Devotional Journal easily adapts to 6 weeks of group meetings, the DVD's chapter divisions are easily accessible, and the addition of some simple group dynamics allows this powerful content to be discussed, digested, and activated. Check it out here: Small Group Pack Details

LifeWay Stores

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:20:36 +0000

Freedom Begins Here will be in select LifeWay Stores beginning in October through the end of November. Our DVD ToolKits will be featured on an end cap in the store. If all goes well in the fall, we could potentially be in all LifeWay Stores beginning next year. Check the list of stores below to see if any are in your area. Go by and check it out if you can, pick up a ToolKit and help us get FBH into all LifeWay Stores! Locations: Rogers, Arkansas Oklahoma City, Oklahoma Jackson, Mississippi Little Rock, Arkansas Lexington, Kentucky Columbus, Ohio Buford, Georgia Chattanooga, Tennessee Greenville. South Carolina Kennesaw, Georgia Louisville, Kentucky A very blurry photo (from my Blackberry) of our end cap at the LifeWay Store in Little Rock, AR.

LifeWay Youth Pastors Conference

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:20:39 +0000

From Hershey, we traveled to Nashville for the LifeWay Youth Pastor�s Conference. Over 300 youth pastors assembled to better equip themselves to lead their youth groups. Sadly, there is no doubt that youth are taking the brunt of the pornography crisis. 12 to 17 year olds are the largest consumers of Internet pornography. Most of the youth pastors we spoke with are proactively dealing with this issue in their youth groups. However, we met several who were either intentionally avoiding it, didn�t think it was an issue among their kids, or were not allowed to approach it as instructed by the senior pastor. Tragic isn�t it? If a child's first exposure to hard core Internet porn happens around age 11, and we are not helping them deal with the images that are now forever implanted in their brain, don't act surprised when you find out five years later that they see nothing wrong with oral sex, masturbation, etc. They think, "We're not having intercourse, so we�re not having sex." Sorry to be so blunt, but that is the reality of what this sexually charged culture is telling our kids. On a lighter note, we drove through 10 states on this trip and saw all kinds of fun stuff...like this van:

Men At The Cross � Hershey, Pennsylvania

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:21:02 +0000

"The sweetest place on earth" was home to the fifth Men at the Cross event and our fifth time to minister in a big way to the men who attended. We continue to meet and dialogue with men and women who are stepping up and getting equipped with the Freedom Begins Here material. Thank you for tackling this crisis in your own life, for guarding your family, and for challenging your church leadership to take action. Our approach this time was a little more direct. We created a new sign that read, �PORN. We�re all dealing with it. It�s time to TALK about it.� We have ideas for other banners too. How about, "Stopping at this booth does not make you a pervert" or "Find help 'for a friend'" or "Shhhh�it's a secret." We�d love to hear your ideas and feedback for how we can break through the silence and stigma that surrounds this whole issue. You can always reply to our emails with your comments. We read and respond to every email that comes in.
Rick deep in thought.
(No, a shaved head is not a requirement to work at Freedom Begins Here. Some of us are just follically challenged)

What's going on at Freedom Begins Here

Thu, 16 Jul 2009 20:16:47 +0000

We haven't posted a full update in a while and we thought you might be wondering what has been going on around here. Things are moving so fast and it is hard for our small team to keep up with the day to day and even harder to sit down and write about it. Here's a quick list of what's been going on. Every day is a reminder that we are a very small team with a very big vision. Tackling the enormous crisis of pornography and sexual sin would be a colossal quest for a team ten times our size. Yet day in and day out we give it everything we've got, knowing that this is what we are called to do. The encouraging news is that we are beginning to see real traction. It seems that the seeds we've been planting for over four years are starting to grow. For a long time it seemed like we were staring at the dirt only to see an occasional sprout or two. What does that mean in non-metaphorical, non-clich� language? It means Freedom Begins Here is starting to get the attention of people outside of our office. Retailers are putting FBH resources in their stores. Organizations are ready to partner with us to amplify our small voice with their megaphones. Pastors and church leaders are getting equipped to help their churches begin the conversation about porn and sexual sin. Moms and dads are ready to talk to their kids about it. And most importantly, people all over the country are beginning their journey toward freedom. But none of this would be happening without all of you who believe in us and believe in this cause. Now we need you to spread the word. With every person who signs up for our newsletter, purchases a ToolKit or submits a story, another seed is planted and the harvest gets a little bigger. And yes, we like to have fun in the process.

Internet Pornography Statistics

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:20:58 +0000

http://internet-filter-review.toptenreviews.com/internet-pornography-statistics.html This site has some eye opening statistics that we all need to be aware of.

American Air Attendants Urge Filters to Bar Web Porn

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:20:56 +0000

Bloomberg News Story: http://www.bloomberg.com/apps/news?pid=20601010&sid=aeAkdfULJJ1s

Rush of Fools talks about FBH on TotalAxxess

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:20:48 +0000

Rush of Fools recently did an interview about their partnership with us on nationally syndicated radio program TotalAxxess. Total Axxess airs every Monday through Saturday evening from 7-Midnight on 137 radio signals. Listen to the interview here: http://freedombeginshere.org/_docs/roftotalaxxess.mp3

Alcoholism vs. Pornism?

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:21:11 +0000

Alcoholism first became widely known as a disorder just as the popularity of television hit the scene in the 1940�s. Interestingly, porn addiction is coming into focus just as the other most significant communication medium in history is taking shape�the Internet. Are the addictions really that different? In the scientific sense of raw chemical reactions, no they�re not. Be it alcohol, drugs, cutting, or porn, the brain is reacting much the same way. The difference is in the perception. For example, see what happens when you tell a group of people at your church that you are a recovering alcoholic. You will be embraced, prayed over, patted on the back and assured that you are loved. One the other hand, try telling that same group of people that you are a recovering porn addict. An awkward silence instantly engulfs the room. You may as well have just admitted that you are single-handedly responsible for the entire sex trafficking industry. Everyone goes home thinking about how much of a pervert you must be (while in denial of their own issues). You can forget ever working in the nursery at church again. No wonder we read stories about pastors who fake having cancer to hide their addiction to porn. They know that if their secret gets out they will be ruined forever. And that�s a pastor. Think about the person sitting in the pew when it�s announced the porn pastor was just extricated from the church. You think that guy is ever going to come forward and get help? No way! And the cycle of silence continues. So, what will porn addiction look like in 30 years? My hope is that through the work of Freedom Begins Here and the work of others, we will begin to talk openly about the problem. Whatever our vice (and don�t lie, we all have them), I pray the Church will begin to welcome us with open arms into a place of safety and recovery.

Will it fix itself?

Thu, 04 Jun 2009 13:24:55 +0000

This morning in our prayer meeting there were several things brought up that got me thinking. A man had struggled with an addiction to pornography for 15 years... and someone said, "That's close to the majority of his life." If you have a flat tire on your vehicle, you get it repaired and drive down the road... what happens if you don't? You drive on the flat until you've destroyed the tire, the rim, and eventually other parts of your vehicle will become damaged. Driving at higher speeds with a flat tire can be hazardous and may result in a serious and potentially deadly accident. For those struggling with an addiction and hoping it will fix itself... it might not. What then? Are you content living and hoping it's going to get better? Why not do something. Why not get that flat repaired? There's no guarantee that your journey will be suddenly become a smooth one, but leave it your struggle to fix itself and you're risking a wreck. If you care about your car there's no question you'd get that tire taken care of. It's probably safe to say you care more about your own life and wellness than you do for your vehicle... unless it's a classic! J/K I'm not saying this to discourage anyone... but that imagery just came to me hearing about people living with this struggle for such an extended period of time.

Removing the Mask

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:21:16 +0000

In the summer blockbuster movie, "The Dark Knight", one of the themes is Bruce Wayne's weariness with maintaining his alter ego by wearing the mask of "The Batman". We might not be "The Batman", but we are also very good at hiding who we really are behind our masks. After all, if people really knew us they might not love us and accept us at all. We may not be hiding behind a superhero mask, then again, maybe we are, acting like we have it all together when really we don't. And, we also grow weary because maintaining our alter ego is work and it's hard. Thankfully, there is One we can always be ourselves with, "without the mask", who does love us and who does accept us just as we are. That is God and that is good. We can be honest, we can be open, we can be transparent with Him. He knows it all, anyway. So, take off your mask. It's ok. Be real. Be accepted. Be loved. Begin to live Free. Then you will inspire others to "take off the mask", too. "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." Matthew 11:28 (NIV)

Pastor, We�re Not Having Sex!

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:21:18 +0000

How to counsel married couples through bedroom problems By Douglas Weiss, Ph.D. Terry and Tami seemed like the perfect married couple. They were in their 30s, attractive and successful. They�d known Pastor Phil for several years and one day came to him for counseling. As soon as they all were seated behind closed doors, Tami blurted out: �Pastor�Terry and I aren�t having sex!� Pastor Phil�s mind reeled: Not this couple. No way, he thought. His mind instantly raced back to his Bible-school training. He could not recall any lessons he might have had on �The Sexless Marriage.� In fact, he couldn�t remember ever counseling a couple who didn�t want sex. In the end, all he could say was: �Terry, Tami�you should fast and pray.� Click here to read more...

FBH Team

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:21:20 +0000

Front to back (or bottom to top - however you want to look at it): Tyler Kidd Todd Robertson Kelly Craghead Bryson Moore Jamie Gray Gary Gray Michael Denison Bob Schermacher Steve Snediker Jonathan Griesse Not pictured: Brent Barrowcliff, Rick Dimmitt, David Spohn, Natalie Slater

FBH in New Man eMagazine

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:21:21 +0000

New Man eMagazine recently featured an article about Freedom Begins Here. You can read it here: http://www.newmanmagazine.com/e-magazine/062608/FreedomBegins.php Be sure to check out the Rush of Fools video on the right hand side of the page. Remember to sign up for our newsletter and tell your friends about us!

FBH Featured on the Fermi Project

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:21:33 +0000

Check it out: www.fermiproject.com Fermi Project is a broad collective of innovators, artists, social entrepreneurs, church and societal leaders experimenting with ways to advance the common good in culture. Gabe Lyons of the Fermi Project co-authored the book UnChristian with David Kinnaman of the Barna Group. FBH thanks the Fermi Project for their support!

What would you do?

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:21:35 +0000

What would you do if your son, daughter, husband or wife approached you and said, "I'm addicted to pornography... I can't quit. I want to, but I can't." Would you know what to say? Does it seem impossible that you'd ever hear that from a loved one? Thoughts?

The bad guys of Primetime Television...

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:21:37 +0000

I'm not going to lie; I watch a lot of TV. It's just something I enjoy... I like the stories that the writers can tell in 30-minute episodes of Scrubs... and I enjoy the drama and suspense of Law & Order... I don't care how fake their tactics are - I enjoy watching it! One thing that ALWAYS makes me wonder though... On SVU (Special Victims Unit) they handle the sexually related crimes. All of the criminals have backgrounds that started with abuse, addiction, or mental illness... Now, I realize these are fictional characters and this is all over dramatized for shock and awe on TV, but I still wonder... these individuals would probably not have been welcome into a church... where they belong. People would not have put their arms around them and offered love and encouragement. Instead, people would smile, look away, and think in the back of their heads "My kid isn't going near that person." It's the sad truth. I always feel for these "bad guys." Sure they're labeled as "sick" - all the more reason to show them love. It's something I struggle with when I see "To Catch a Predator" on tv... these folks need help and not humiliation on a national tv show. It seems like a double-edged sword and I don't know if it's right or not, but something in me says they are doing more damage than they know. We can be there to offer all the help in the world when we see these people... but really, why are we waiting until their struggle has progressed to the point of acting out. Why can we not start living in accountability and support before it all crashes down. /end rant.

Brown Bulletin Cover Story

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:21:39 +0000

As an FBH team member, I can first testify to the great difficulty we have experienced in getting media coverage for our project. It's not that people aren't interested, or that the story's not newsworthy. It's just the very important detail that porn is pornography and that 50 percent of Christian men and 20 percent of Christian women are dealing with a addiction to it. If a news source validates the problem with a story, a blog entry, or some other "published" mention, they are tacitly agreeing with the statistics and sadly don't really want the heat in their backyard. Enter the Brown Bulletin, the alumni magazine of John Brown University. Their Summer 2008 issue features the Freedom Begins Here story as their cover story. Check it out. (In all fairness, seven of our team members are JBU alumni. However, the weight of the story and subject matter required more than just an editorial gut check -- I believe it was a display of courage in the epic battle of helping the Bride of Christ, His Church, prepare Herself for the coming Bridegroom. Thanks for being so brave!)

I'm Not Hurting Anyone

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:21:41 +0000

Fox News recently did an article entitled, �8 Signs Your Partner Is Addicted to Porn� written by FOXSexpert, Yvonne K. Fulbright. Sexpert? Huh?! Anyway� the article reads more like �Is he cheating on me?� and less like �Is he, she, or even AM I Addicted?� What I found most intriguing is the blog connected to the article� entry upon entry of placating a behavior that wounds. It wounds us, and the ones we love. One of the defensive responses that we hear when we breach the topic of porn and sexual addiction is that it doesn�t hurt anyone. I think anyone who has struggled with this can recall the inner voice of �reason� explaining the �coping-method� concept, the �not-a-physical-affair� argument, or even the �it-will-help-my-relationship� justification. It�s just NOT true. The pain of pornography IS real. So who does it hurt� REALLY? Homo simul iustus et peccator :: Mercy, not condemnation

Running The Race

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:21:58 +0000

I Corinthians 9:24-26 Don�t you realize that in a race everyone runs, but only one person gets the prize? So run to win! All athletes are disciplined in their training. They do it to win a prize that will fade away, but we do it for an eternal prize. So I run with purpose in every step. I am not just shadowboxing. I ran a 5K race this past Saturday. The race was small; only about 70 other runners competed. I am not a fast runner but I am a consistent runner. The small races are fun for me because I feel like I am really in the mix of the elite runners. The sun was out and it warmed up into the 70s by the start of the race. A 5K race is just over three miles long - not a long race. By the time I reached mile two, I felt the sun on top of me and the heat coming off the pavement. About that time I turned a corner and faced a hill. As I got to the top of that hill, I made a left turn and faced another hill. All in the last mile. Facing those hills, I was glad I had gotten enough sleep that week and have been diligent in my training. I have been running long enough to know the value of speed work and long runs. Healthy eating makes a difference as well. When I am training I know a need to do certain things to do well (regular training, good diet) and stay away from certain things (junk food, staying up late). I have a goal in mind. I am aiming toward my goal. It�s the same in my personal life overall. I need to do certain things (prayer, living in right relationships, times of rest) and stay away from certain things (living for the flesh to serve my own needs and desires). In my life I want to run a race that honors the Father. The rewards will be eternal.

Myspace... a gateway to another dimension.

Wed, 21 Oct 2009 18:25:20 +0000

We all know the effect social networking has had on our culture. Everyone and their mother (literally) is now able to have an online presence... What does your presence look like? We are so naive to think that the pictures we put online are only viewed by our friends. Think about the images you're making available to the world... and to people that could potentially be struggling with an addiction to pornography that could be triggered by a "revealing image." It seems like everywhere you look there are triggers and I have a suspicion that while the majority are supposed to act as triggers, many are not. If you have a Facebook, or Myspace, or any other online presence please take a moment and think about how you're presenting yourself. Be a light to those in dark places... I mean, who honestly likes clicking on a link to a myspace page and then waiting 5 minutes just to see half naked pictures of some random person? All you wanted to do was see if you knew the person, right? And what's up with all those "rear shots" used in spam friend invites? There are at least 3 a day that I have to mark as spam. Sex might sell in advertising, but if you ask me, sex is killing social networking!

I am a saint. I am a sinner.

Fri, 15 May 2009 20:22:02 +0000

Check all that apply� I don�t struggle with porn. I know that my pastor doesn�t struggle with it either. I really don�t know anyone who views pornography. I have a great family and a great marriage. I am a Christian. I am very blessed. I can say �yes� to some of those things. Now flip the coin. I am struggling through this life. I can�t sit in front of a computer for more than 5 minutes. I�m unable to stay alone in a hotel room with cable TV service. I can�t even drive through that one part of town. I am so broken. I am so alone. I will never make it. Do you know this voice? All of us do (Romans 3:11-18). Even if you�re a Christian leader or pastor, all of us have stumbled. Some still bear the scars from our falls. Maybe it wasn�t sexual temptation, but we have all felt broken and alone. The Protestant Reformer Martin Luther used the Latin phrase �Homo simul iustus et peccator� to explain the state of all believers in a new light. Man is at the same time saint and sinner. What a paradox. I am a saint and a sinner. I�m not perfect, just forgiven. PBPGINFWMY. Say it however you like, but it is the transformational power of the gospel. It is the light of hope shining into the darkness and the darkness cannot hide from it. So what does God require ME to do about this whole porn thing? If you think you are a saint, think again about YOUR need for a Savior. If you think you are a hopeless sinner, consider YOUR Savior and the mercy He extends to all. There is a beautiful answer to that question in Micah 6:8, �Do what is fair and love kindness. Walk without pride with your God.� I can be fair and kind to those who struggle. I can humbly come before God to find freedom. Jonathan Homo simul iustus et peccator :: Mercy, not condemnation

In the light

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My home fellowship group has been doing a study on the gospel of Mark this year. As I was preparing for our lesson this week, I read the section in Mark where Christ is about to go to the Cross. One of the sections of that lesson talks about how important Jesus� sacrifice really is. We cross-referenced other verses to study the point. Ephesians 5:1-2 Watch what God does, and then you do it, like children who learn proper behavior from their parents. Mostly what God does is love you. Keep company with him and learn a life of love. Observe how Christ loved us. His love was not cautious but extravagant. He didn't love in order to get something from us but to give everything of himself to us. Love like that. (The Message) Jesus gave everything to us in order that we might have a life that is impossible for us otherwise. The verses go on in Ephesians. Ephesians 5:3-4 Don't allow love to turn into lust, setting off a downhill slide into sexual promiscuity, filthy practices, or bullying greed. (The Message) Ephesians 5: 8-10 You groped your way through that murk once, but no longer. You're out in the open now. The bright light of Christ makes your way plain. So no more stumbling around. Get on with it! The good, the right, the true�these are the actions appropriate for daylight hours. Figure out what will please Christ, and then do it. (The Message) We are bombarded with so many messages and so many images from television, from movies, and from the internet. We don�t take big steps into the darkness, but instead we slide into it. Every day I need to remind myself that I need to focus on �the good, the right, the true.�

A Rude Awakening

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�Mr. Miranda, help me please�� I sat listening to a voicemail from a frazzled and terrified mom who had on the previous night busted her 6th grade, 11 year old daughter for looking at gay porn�both guys and girls�and for having a Myspace page. After calling the mom back and speaking with her, I shared some basic information with her concerning the addictive properties of pornography, a little about my story (I�m a recovering addict�since 1999) and some suggestions for internet safety. She was speechless! I had to make sure that she didn�t have a coronary right there on the spot. During our talk she cycled through a bunch of different emotions: disbelief, anger, frustration, fear, terror�and then back to anger�okay, she stayed at anger and frustration for a lot of the time. Mom said �I thought I knew my little girl�I mean, you hear about this kind of stuff happening to people who are crappy parents, but me and my husband are great parents,� and they really were. But staying on top of a teenager�s ever changing cultural and moral landscape is a lot like a salmon swimming up a waterfall: if you stop for just one second you go backwards! Once I began to delve a little further I realized that my student�s father looked at porn on a regular basis and you can fool a fool, but you can�t kid a kid. Kids know their parents habits and ultimately their character. I reminded mom that both habits and character are caught not taught and if they wanted their daughter to stop looking at porn, it was going to have to start with dad. I also informed mom that she and her husband needed to begin really spending time with their daughter and getting to know her. Mom admitted that the family was really busy�the word she used was �fractured;� I thought that her choice of words was interesting for two reasons: 1. both she and her husband are nurses and 2. this was an accurate yet sad descriptor of individuals, families, communities and our culture as a whole: fractured, we are broken! Mom went on to admit that when her husband came home from a hard shift, he would disappear into his �man cave� for hours at a time �playing on his computer and the internet.� Mom and daughter were left all alone to fend for themselves. Mom went on to tell the oh-so-familiar story of a lack of intimate sexual or spiritual relationship with her husband and how that lack of intimacy was mirrored in her and her husband�s relationship�or lack thereof�with their daughter. I could only assume that a large portion or possibly all of the time, this father was looking at porn. He was looking for healing, for intimacy, but it would never be found there. Speaking with the student confirmed the same story. The student told me that she rarely saw her father when he got home and when he spoke with her it was only about �safe stuff like school and my grades and stuff�never about who I am or what I like to do�or about what I can�t do.� This family was broken! How could we put the pieces back together? Getting to Know You In my almost 18 years of experience in dealing with teens and families as both a Christian Counselor and as a middle and high school counselor, I�ve been asked the same question by parents, teachers, youth workers and anybody who just wants to get to know teens better: �Omar, how can I get to know my teen better?� And here again was this mother asking me the same thing. She said, �Mr. Miranda, I know you told me to get to know my daughter, but how do I do it? What do I say or don�t say?� I�ve found that if I ask 5 questions, I can usually get to know what type of issues that teen is dealing with, the friends he/she spends time with and generally open the door to what�s going on in their life. These are the questions I told that mom and dad to ask their daughter and start the long and difficult road to healing the brokenness that they were all experiencing. Here are the questions in no particular order: 1. Tell me your favorite 3 video games you have played or are playing? 2. Tell me your 3 favorite bands/songs you are listening to? 3. Tell me your 3 favorite web-sites you have frequented? 4. Tell me about 3 favorite shows you are watching on the T.V.? 5. Do you have a myspace, facebook or other social networking site (SNS) page? Can you tell me about it? Can you give me your address? Then when you have all that information, go surfing on the internet and prepare to be amazed at how much you learn! You might also be amazed at how much closer you and your teen are. If you want to dig deeper, ask your teen these questions once a week, then follow-up with questions like: �why do you like to listen/watch this�?� Get ready for some honesty! Remember, if you don�t want to truly know the answer, don�t ask the question

YouTube and the Porn Crisis

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YouTube is the 3rd most trafficked site on the web, according to Alexa Internet statistics. Everybody is using YouTube. It has revolutionized media communication just as much as the television did back in the 1950�s. But there is a big difference between broadcast television and the user submitted content on YouTube. The difference is regulation. When TV hit the scene five decades ago, your choices were �I Love Lucy� or �Gunsmoke.� Not exactly TV-MA material, much less XXX. We all know that the FCC has a tight grip on what television networks can and cannot show on network TV. Even though most of us are quick to point out the tolerance of questionable (ok, downright scandalous) content on network TV, it pales in comparison to the increasing selection of sensual videos and pics available at our fingertips on sites like YouTube. Now don�t get me wrong, as a professional video producer myself, I think the concept and model of YouTube is brilliant. But for those of us (might I say all of us) who have major temptation issues when we see a video titled �lonely girl in bedroom,� the amazing innovation of YouTube also presents a huge stumbling block that begins to reveal why we are facing an epidemic of pornography addiction. And even though YouTube attempts to block actual nudity, porn producers do just about everything to drive you back to their site after clicking on one of their teaser videos. Understand that I�m not pinning the moral fallout of our society on YouTube! I�m also not blaming them alone for the crisis of pornography and sexual addiction. Just a few minutes of surfing around on sites like MySpace, Flickr, and Friendster can be like running the gauntlet of sexual temptation all while sitting in the comfy secrecy of your bedroom. These sites are full of sultry images and videos just waiting to trip us up. I know I�m not saying anything earth shattering here and you may be wondering where I�m going with this. I mainly just want to ask a question. Is it safe to assume that all of us struggle with sexual temptation on some level? I�m not just talking about guys here. Girls, you struggle too and that�s normal. If that is a safe assumption, and we know that porn is thrown at us constantly without discretion for age or situation, how can we win the battle and find real freedom from pornography and sexual addiction? What do I think? I think it starts with ruthless accountability. If you haven't installed accountability software already, do it now! Through our partnership with Covenant Eyes, you can download a free 30-day trial here: Download Covenant Eyes Trial

Chicago: Our Largest Event Yet

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We just returned from the Ascension Convention in Chicago where 1,500 students and youth pastors assembled for one powerful weekend. Something exciting happened for us as well. This event marks the first time Rush of Fools presented Freedom Begins Here from the concert stage. As you will hear from the video, Kevin took several minutes to talk about the crisis of pornography and sexual addiction, announced our partnership and urged leaders to meet with us the next morning at 8AM. You can see the (very low quality) video here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LTLpr36OcvU We figured only a few would come that early in the morning. We were wrong. It was standing room only. People came because they understand the crisis and they�re ready to tackle this monster that is stealing innocence from our youth. Some of the stories we heard shook us to the core yet motivate us to keep doing what we do. A woman with tears in her eyes was helping her sister who had recently discovered her husband�s addiction to porn. She had never heard about FBH until that morning. Youth leaders told us how their kids are sending hundreds of pornographic pictures back and forth using cell phones. The kids don�t see anything wrong with it. We spoke with a middle school counselor who is dealing with kids having group sex�in middle school! This is happening right here, in our schools, in our churches, in our homes. It is no longer about those people who need help for their problem. This is our problem. That is why we need everyone to join this movement with us. Thank you so much for your support, encouragement and prayers so far. We know that the work has only begun. Please invite as many people as you can to join the Freedom Begins Here cause.

PRE-LAUNCH EVENTS GAINING MOMENTUM!

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We are now into our third week of the Pre-Launch Events and things are going really well! Church leaders are very excited and we are starting to see a groundswell of support for Freedom Begins Here in cities all over the country. For those of you who may not know, these Pre-Launch Events coincide with the Newsboys/Rush of Fools �GO� Tour. They are part of a 36-city concert tour over the next three months. So far, our travels have taken us to Virginia, Iowa, Illinois, Indiana, and Missouri. One of the attendees offered this -- �Friday was a great day! I feel so blessed that I was able to attend your event. Thank you for all the cool stuff, that was an unexpected surprise. I think Rush of Fools is going to be one of my favorites. Their music is so inspiring! Meeting Kevin and Jamie and hearing their passion for witnessing and helping people with their struggles with porn made me love them more. What a blessing to be there and what a blessing you guys have been to me too. Thank You and I will pray for you and this wonderful ministry.� We are headed to Texas this week. Our team will be in Lubbock, Abilene, Houston and San Antonio. If you know ANY CHURCH LEADERS in these areas, please let them know we are coming to town. In fact, if you know ANYONE at all in these areas please ask them to refer their churches by going to our website, www.freedombeginshere.org What are these Pre-Launch Events all about? In partnership with Gary Smalley, we have created a series of DVD ToolKits, entitled Freedom Begins Here, that will equip churches to respond the epidemic of pornography and sexual addiction. Before our nationwide release of Freedom Begins Here, we are inviting a handful of Christian leaders to a series of Pre-Launch Events across the country. What should you expect? � A chance to sit down with other church leaders in your community and hear about why we, in partnership with Dr. Gary Smalley and Rush of Fools, are rallying churches around a movement to end the struggle with pornography. � A casual environment. Most of the events are held at local coffee shops. And we�ll even buy you a cup of your favorite coffee! � An opportunity to meet one of today�s most popular Christian bands, Rush of Fools and hear about why they chose to champion our cause. � A chance to win some free stuff like t-shirts, CDs, books, and concert tickets.

Update from the Road

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February 21 � Quincy, Illinois. It was a frigid snowy day in Quincy this Thursday. But that didn�t stop people from coming out. It was the largest and most diverse crowd yet. We had seasoned pastors sitting next to earring laden, longhaired GenY pastors and everything in between. Different as they could be in many ways, yet rallying around the same cause�helping their churches find freedom from pornography. Thank you so much to Jan and the staff at Coffee on Broadway! You were so gracious to us. February 22 � Merrillville, Indiana. Wow. It is amazing to see the response from people who come to hear what we�re all about. Two moms who are active in their church and community heard about us on the radio and decided to come. And we are so glad they did. They are championing the cause. They actually want us to come back to their communities with Rush of Fools and put on an event to talk about the issue. That is exactly what we need to get this movement off the ground. February 23 � Des Moines, Iowa. Maybe it sounds clich�, but God is continually bringing the right people at the right time to these events. Today we met a man who is actually helping a church deal with a crisis involving the pastor�s pornography problem. In fact, he met with the church congregation the very next day and was planning to use some of the Freedom Begins Here material in the meeting. This man drove 100 miles to hear what we had to say. Amazing!

Pre-Launch Events - Round Two: Illinois, Indiana, Iowa

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Well, we�re at it again. Last week we were in Lynchburg, Virginia. This week we will host Pre-Launch Events in Quincy, IL, Merrillville, IN, Des Moines, IA and Naperville, IL, respectively. Why these cities you ask? Because we�re doing the Pre-Launch Events in parallel with the Rush of Fools / Newsboys concert tour. Our events will happen in the afternoon of the same day of the concert. What is all of this about? In partnership with Gary Smalley, we have created a series of DVD ToolKits, entitled Freedom Begins Here, that will equip churches to help people who struggle with pornography and sexual addiction. Before our nationwide release of Freedom Begins Here, we are inviting a handful of Christian leaders to this invitation-only Pre-Launch Event. On our website are the cities on the Newsboys/Rush of Fools Tour where we will be. You can meet some of the guys from Rush of Fools, hear about their passion for this cause, and learn how Freedom Begins Here can prepare your church and help you create a safe place that is ready and equipped to respond to the potential flood of responses.

Taking the Long Road

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Early tomorrow morning we will fire up the engines, melt the frost from the windshield, fill up on petrol and coffee and head east on a long road trip to meet up with the Rush of Fools/Newsboys "Go" tour in Lynchburg, Virginia for the very first Pre-Launch Mobilization Event. This will be the first official public unveiling of the Freedom Begins Here products and our partnership with Rush Of Fools. Please pray that God will prepare the hearts of all the pastors and church leaders we will meet with. Pray that the message gets through. Pray that a movement will begin. The lives of millions struggling with pornography hang in the balance as we step out and urge churches to start talking about this silent struggle. Check back for updates, photos and videos from the road.

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