We ask in faith!

Posted by Brent Barrowcliff on November 08, 2012 | 0 Comments

Please read this story first. This is why we need your help:

I am a single mother to three wonderful boys. Their father struggled with pornography and infidelity all of our marriage and eventually ended up leaving us when our oldest son was eight years old. That son is now 14 years old and I discovered, about a year ago, that he had been regularly seeking out and viewing pornography on the internet.

When I confronted him with what I had found he totally denied that he had been doing it even though the evidence was undeniable. I put software on the computer and addressed the issue as best as I knew how. I sought advice from our Pastor as well as my sons Youth Pastor. After meeting with his Youth Pastor my son finally confessed to what he had been doing. I would periodically ask him if he was struggling with the temptation of porn again just to keep checked in and keep him accountable. He would, with seemingly heartfelt conviction, remind me that was in his past. He would state that he reminded himself daily of the struggle and his desire to stay pure. He even kept a piece of a cinder block on his dresser that he got from the Youth Pastor after a message about how sin weighs us down but Christ can break us free from the addictions that we have. It seemed like we had met the issue head on and won.

Fast forward now almost a year and once again he is viewing pornography online and adamantly denying it even when the proof is un deniably right in front of us. I am scared for him and where this will lead for him if I don’t a) get him to see that he needs confess to the wrong he is doing and accept responsibility for it. b) help him to see the danger of pornography and why it is so wrong other than just because I say it is. I need for him to believe for himself that it is harmful I need to help him find a way to personal conviction in this matter. My son is not a reader so if you can point me to some audio or visual aids to help me reach him I would really appreciate it. I don't want to sound like I am looking for a hand out but I feel I need to be totally honest about my situation in order to get information that can be useful to me. What I mean by that is I am raising my three boys on my income alone and I make just barely over minimum wage so I would really appreciate if any information or resources you are able to point me to be either free or extremely inexpensive. I am desperate to help my son however I am limited to what I can do financially. I have seen firsthand the damage pornography can do and it breaks my heart for him. I appreciate your time and any resources you can send my way. Thank you so very much.



We ask in Faith! A message from our board.

Hebrews 11:1 says this, “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.â€

Last Thursday night, the Transparent Ministries board was arriving for our monthly meeting. As the last board member walked in, he said, “Brent there is a guy outside saying he is supposed to be at this meeting.†We looked at each other perplexed. We were all there. Who was this guy? Brent went out to talk to him as the rest of us started the meeting.

But this meeting quickly took a turn for the worst.

With Brent still out of the room, we looked at the financials from the past few months. Product sales are down. Support from donors and friends of the ministry are down.

What were we looking at? Well, let’s be TRANSPARENT. If we didn’t leave this room with a serious plan, the ministry would definitely have to start functioning differently within a month.

Just as we started talking about ways to cut expenses, Brent walked back into the room and sat down. We were focused on important business matters and didn’t stop to ask what the guy outside wanted. We were able to make a few plans and started cutting our already bare bone expenses. Then it hit us like a ton of bricks. This is not our ministry. It is His.

Now I could start quoting statistics to you about the destruction pornography has caused in this world, but you’ve heard that from us since the beginning. I could even share with you my own story of struggling with pornography as a kid, as a young man in college, and the continual temptation it is today but to what end? Reality is we have an issue among us not only in the world, but right in the middle of the Church. It is no secret that pornography is the most secretive and destructive sin we face today. It is not only tearing wounds in the heart of the individual it is tearing apart the very institution God created—the family and the larger body of Christ. The hardest thing about it is that very few people or churches want to address it and talk about it, or give credibility to the havoc it is causing in people and families today. I promise you it will not go away by ignoring it.

Transparent Ministries is addressing it and we want to help others address it in their own lives. We want to help churches address it in their congregations. But we are not satisfied with just addressing it. We want to see freedom take the place of chains. We want to see wounds healed. We want to see marriages and families restored, and the body of Christ take back what the world has made so ugly, distasteful, and shameful. But, this is just not our heart. Psalm 107:20 says, “He sent out his Word and healed them, and delivered them from their destruction.†This message is the very heart of God, and he sent his son so that we all may leave in freedom.

What’s the bottom line? We need your help. In order for Transparent Ministries to continue helping people and the Church get free from the addiction of pornography, we need $3,500 a month in sales and support just to make ends meet. This is a bare bones budget meaning it covers few expenses and pays Brent a small salary to be the face of TM, meet with those struggling, speak at churches and schools, and attend conferences to teach and encourage, and mail products as they are ordered. Currently, we are bringing in roughly $1,000 to $1,300 a month. Meaning we need to bring in between $26,000 and $30,000 to see Transparent Ministries continue to operate in 2013.

So how can you help? We are not looking for donors, we are looking for partners. We know it takes more than money. We are looking for partners to not only give sacrificially to the area of freedom of the sin and chains of pornography, but we are asking for your prayers. Prayer is powerful and effective and must be the foundation of this ministry. It is the key to seeing addictions broken.  So would you first take time to pray and seek the Lord on his heart for this area of addiction and pain, then ask Him what you are to do? If the Lord lays upon your heart to give, there are many ways to do that. You can send your check to:

Transparent Ministries
PO Box 7093
Siloam Springs, AR 72761

Or you can give online at www.freedombeginshere.org/donate/ 

By the way, the guy that showed up at our meeting. He was a man ravished in the sin and addiction of pornography and was desperate to get out of it. He had heard from a friend that we were meeting and he came to get help. Brent ministered to him and set up a meeting to start him on his path to freedom. There are many others like this guy wanting and needing help. As Hebrews 11:1 states, “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.†We now hope and have faith in the Lord that He will provide and help us help others.Thank you for considering praying for and giving to Transparent Ministries.

In His Service,
TM Board