1 Thessalonians 4:3-8
James 1:2-18
Galatians 5
1 Corinthians 10:13
James 5:16

... just to name a few! Hope this helps.

Scott.

I struggle w/ masturbation im a happily married women and we have a good "love life" but i still find myself having to please myself, but sometimes i even fantasize about women, and i know thats wrong, so i can i over come this???

Anonymous,

Will you never be tempted again? I do not know. Sometimes we are miraculously delivered from certain temptations and sometimes we are given the daily grace to resist the temptation when it comes.

Like Paul and his "thorn in the flesh". I'm not saying that was a temptation because we do not know what it was but the point is that God did not take it away but instead said "My grace is sufficient for you" 2 Corinthians 12:7-10. 1 Corinthians 10:12-13 says that "God will provide a way of escape when we are tempted."

I do know that we have a choice as Christians. There is freedom from having to sin when temptation comes.

I like to put a plan in place ahead of time for how I need to react or for where I need to go spiritually when temptation comes. If I wait until I am in the middle of the temptation...too late. But, if I have a plan, it helps my resistance and it helps me to choose not to sin. Do I still fail sometimes? Yes. But not as often. Because I have set up spiritual obstacles I have to go through to choose to willfully commit that sin.

The main one is that I do not want to miss God's best for my life by choosing to go against Him by meeting my "needs" in my way instead of in His way. I shortchange my life when I do that. What I think is my best for me could never come close to what He knows is His best for me. It becomes a question of do I trust Him or not when it really gets down to it.

I often have to cry out for God's grace to help me to choose His way instead of my way. When I do that, the grace is there, but the question is whether I then accept it or refuse it by the choice that I make.

My sin then becomes a choice instead of just a reaction to something I am not prepared for ahead of time. I hope that makes sense in the way I wrote it.

My prayer for you is that God does take these desires away immediately, but if not, then over time as you let God's Word dwell in you as you dwell in God's Word, and if they are still there over time (hopefully less often), I pray you will choose to accept God's grace and God's way of escape that He promises to provide.

I realize that is a lot to say and is not a direct answer but I hope it is helpful to you in the temptations you face and in the choices you make.

The really good news is that you have a heart that wants to please God. And, God will always work with a heart like that.

Please never give up on God, because God will never give up on you.

Hello. I am deffinitely not comfortable to talk about this subject with anyone especially my gf, but here it seems OK I guess mainly because the reson I am here is because my urges literally have become a vicious concern to my physical safety.

Sorry I forgot to say why. I can't control my thoughts they are unreasonable with my Beliefs. I find that before this problem became an overwhelming issue I believe that i was a follower of christianity all the time. Being around friends is a concern of faithfulness though as I find that they too can become an issue that concerns my thought. This problem however has always been apparent to me and my feelings. Idk what it is. If I make a decision there is always someting there that physically distracts me from my purpose and now in my life it is like this is what my life is always going to mean. I am ashamed of these feelings of confusion and dissappointment though I shouldn't be because they were Not constructed by my Will. I feel like this whole earth IS against me because of this and it has caused everyone I love to dissappear from my love. If only I had been given a good choice I could have prevented all of the evil that arose because of the confusion. It's like I will make God happy if we both agree to be confused. And we don't have to tell anyone about how it can feel to even consider such a notion. the fact is though it is the way it is. I can pray for no confusion, but when do I know I have prayed for it enough as though i feel secure about My decision to avoid masterbation.

Another thing is that masterbation can make someone impatient too. Even make them unable to control their temper. Sadly though this can still happen even if you don't masterbate.In my life this has been an issue and so far I have been dissmissed from 5 forums so far without explanation. I can never go back there even though when I began going to these forums my intentions were to stay as long as there was fun to be had basically. I feel though that this pattern started when I was at a party and someone told me there was a guy trashing my parents car. I remember thinking I could take this guy down, but my ex-gf stepped in and held my hand and looked at me in a way which changed my mind completely. Basically when she was no longer a part of my life at all I guess I had decided that I could now start to avoid her speculation to hold back on my anger towards people that are out to get me. Somehow to me this makes sense because I can see that the point of my opinion no longer plays a part in my decisions in LIFE. So what should I do to fix this??

I have been struggling with masturbation, you know justifying it in my head. I am too ashed to take o my friends and certainly not my family when I watched James & Betty Robinson this morning and they suggested this site.

Please feel free to look at this site all that you want! As often as you want! There are free downloads available and helpful resources available, as well. You may find the Personal ToolKit to be helpful. Thank you so much!

I am adopted 63 yea old man and i have lived with sexual pervertion;visual and masturbation for as long as i can remember. i confessed my sins and rpented and accepted the grace of the LORD JESUS CHRIST in1982 but no relief came for thisparticular problem in fact it has probably got worse.To say im not ashamed would be a lie.this costs me a real relationship with HIM.It has also cost me 3 marriages 2 who were very lovely women all my own fault.To my christian brothers and sisters i feel a despicable hypocrite because they dont know how i really feel. Italk

When I was about 9 years old I discovered the wonderful sensation of when I touched myself 'down there'. (note: Im a girl and I stay external.)
I didn't even know girls COULD masterbate until I was about 14. Then I started looking into if what I was doing was masterbating. I'm 16 now and I'm pretty sure it is. I don't do it very often. Only a couple times a month. Usually about a week after my period is when I get the urge to do it. Since I started at such a young age, I don't fantasize. So I guess it's not what the bible reffers to as 'comitting adultery'. But I don't know.

Is this a wrong thing for a Christian girl? Or should I head down that horrible difficult path of avoidence and quitting?