I agree with you Tyler that the earlier the
better. Some of the problem is that most men are
not comfortable in their own skin with sex so
having a discussion with their son is really
hard.
This is a must for Fathers and Son to connect on
this issue with all the pressures of life around
this issue.
Thanks for challenging Fathers to do the right
thing.
by Brent, 1 year, 4 months ago
I agree that its important. I can remember my
father talking about sex to me only once, when I
was about 14, and it was only about the
mechanics--coupled with the admonition to wait
till I was married--but with no backup
information.
In retrospect, I don't know that if he had more
of a talk with me that it would have done
anything to stop me from getting involved with
porn. The reason I got involved with sexual
addiction in the first place was an attempt to
cover my emotional pain. I think the best thing
that parents can do to keep their children away
from this, or any other addictions, is to make
sure they feel validated.
1- dont just tell them you love them, back it up
by spending time engaging them in conversation or
shared activities
2- be slow to anger (I can tell you from personal
experience that if a parent gets angry at the
drop of a hat, it will make the child afraid of
the parent)
3- never, never use gilt trips on your kids
4- encourage them to succeed, but don't tell them
what success means--they have to figure it out
for themselves. (my parents made certain that I
understood that unless I went to college, I would
never amount to anything. I did go to college,
but it did nothing for my feelings of self worth.
I wonder today if I might have been better served
if I had learned a trade. Only God knows ... and
I try not to think about it because I do believe
that I am where God wants me now.)
by flathillfarm, 1 year, 3 months ago