Then who holds church leadership responsible?!
I understand that scripture calls us to respect leadership and the office they hold. But at what point does respect for the office become an excuse not to deal with a tough subject? If leadership isn't dealing with the issues then is it not fair to ask them, why? Given the statistics, you've got a 50/50 chance that the pastor you are talking to is struggling with it themselves. Why not offer to have someone go through the computer and install safe guards? Why not offer to check through the church's computers (all of them). If they turn down such a gift, why would they? Let's quit accepting and offering excuses.
I'm not talking about a witch hunt. I'm talking about setting your mind fixed on an issue and dealing with it. "Dealing with it" includes loving those who fail, helping those who struggle, and forgiving those who may have caused you pain. "Dealing with it" also means "fleeing" from the temptation. We've got to help each other get away from the temptation.